Behave or Put the Cell Phone Down

My step-son had a concert yesterday. I very much enjoyed it. It’s rare I’m on the audience side.

There are certain rules people are supposed to follow when at a concert. First, pay attention. You are there for the concert. Second, do nothing that will interrupt the musicians or the other audience members.

The people next to me brought their sons, who spent an entire hour looking at Facebook on their cell phone, tapping and laughing. It was annoying. I was going to say something to the parents, but then noticed the parents were doing the exact same thing. Bad behavior.

It was announced at the beginning of the concert and it was printed in the program that phones were to be turned off for the concert. Not silent, not put away, OFF.

This was bad behavior. First, they didn’t even pay attention to the concert. Yes, these are kids, it was out of tune, it was simple, but the kids put their hearts and souls into it and they should be rewarded with an hour of attention. Is it really too much to put away the phone and simply enjoy?

Second, the flashes of light disrupt the musicians and the audience. Neither can enjoy as much when they know there is a distraction.

Third, how would you like if something so important to you was dismissed in favor of something as stupid as Facebook?

The Tree

So, we got our tree this weekend. I have requirements when I get a tree: real, strong branches, full, sweeping the floor. I have lots of ceramic ornaments I like to put out.

My husband and step-son went with me. My husband’s not bad, he did well. My stepson is a whole other story. I told him to look for certain things. He didn’t. He kept choosing a Charlie Brown tree.

And when we asked if he truly wanted one, he said no. He likes the bigger trees. His mom got a 14′ one (mine’s 7′).

I didn’t get it, my husband didn’t get it. Maybe you can help. Post below with your thoughts!

School Lunches

I’m a big fan of packing and sending your lunch with your child. No child should have their parent’s lunch evaluated by someone who has no idea what is going on.

But that is what is happening. Parents who choose to be lower carb, vegetable friendly, gluten-free, and just plain healthy are being told they are feeding their kids wrong and that greasy pizza, GMO wheat crackers, and unappitizing, unhealthy foods are better.

Schools don’t have the money to buy the top quality foods, the freshest vegetables, nor the organic stuff. They are forced to buy the cheapest, mass-marketed crap they can. And this is what the government is telling admins to force on kids. Feed them crap.

It’s disgusting. I should have the first and last say over what my kids eats. If I choose a meal loaded with vegetables and quality meats, I should not have a school force crackers because they feel my gluten intolerant kid needs them.

It’s going to blow up at them. They are going to force something on a kids and that kid is going to get sick. Let’s hope it’s not fatal, but I see it coming.

Big Meals

So, how are you keeping your kids from making little pigs of themselves?

Here’s what I do: we start with a little of everything, then see how we feel. At my family’s table, we only take firsts with all people, seconds when everyone is ready, and dessert after everyone is finished with their dinner, we have cleaned up and everybody relaxes back at the table. And everything is passed down the row, so everybody gets everything.

Let’s just say it takes a while to eat dinner at home. But that’s a good thing. We rarely overeat, and nobody makes a pig of themselves.

It was funny the first time I ate elsewhere. I  simply assumed people ate similar, all together. I was not nearly prepared for a first-come or you don’t get attitude. I didn’t know how to simply reach to middle of the table and grab. I nearly didn’t eat that first time.

At the holidays meal, slow is better. It keeps you from overeating, pigging out and encourages talking and family time.

Appreciate

Christmas… It’s hard to shop for.

Especially for an early teen. Too old for toys, too young to truly appreciate money. Mine wants clothes. Not like he doesn’t have enough already, but he grows so fast.

And I don’t want to get him lots of high priced items because of those growth spurts. He’ll wear a shirt once and grow out of it.

But I don’t want to get cheap stuff either. So, it’s hard.

We don’t do video games, nor uneducational things like that. It’s just not in his best interest. Nor is a dozen dollar things that he’ll only look at and never touch again (he grew up and got plenty of those; most went in the charity box still unopened). The thing I got him that he enjoyed the most was a book of science experiments. We did many together and he read it several times, more or less. It is the only gift that lasted years, was taken out repeatedly and actually used. No toy, no other book, and no dollar item even compared.

Posture & Health

I joined the Festival O’Bones yesterday: a day long music festival dedicated only to trombones! It was a blast. There was a mix of young students, middle aged adults and older adults. I noticed several things:

The adults played better, even if they didn’t play longer. We were better dressed, more appropriate. And our posture was better.

I noticed most of the kids are already developing the widow’s hump. Most jutted their hips to the front. Most locked one knee and flopped the other foot around. The very picture of a kid who doesn’t care.

From there I matched several things: The ones who stood poorly played poorly. The students who stood like adults played very well. The ones who stood poorly breathed shallowly and loudly, while those of us who stood correctly breathed deeply and quietly.

And one final big thing: The students who stood correctly were treated as adults, and many of us adults over-estimated their ages. Those that stood poorly were dismissed as unnecessary, even by the conductor and professional trombonist. Imagine, simply being dismissed because you won’t stand up for yourself.

Many of these poorly postured kids will have great health problems later in life. Back problems, breathing problems, heart problems and many joint problems. Our bodies are designed to use our big muscles to support our frames, small muscles for minute details, and bones for a frame. Poor posture uses the bones and fine muscles for support, something that has always led to poor health.